It seems quite odd how people seem to drift in and out of our lives, and yet we still have reason to move on. As much as we hope that those individuals that are currently a part of our hectic and racing existence, stay with us forever, this may not be the case. I know that, personally, I have had several experiences where I have lost those who I thought were closest to me. It's almost confusing to think about. Looking back on all the cherished moments and the significant memories that you build with someone, when, in the present, they are no longer there to reminisce with you. You would think that because of all the loss that we experience, especially with our friends, it would keep people from really getting close to others as they grow older.... but in reality it seems more like this loss helps us to grow as people and teaches us to actually get closer to those that enter our lives in its later phase.
Its funny how, when looking back on a past relationship (friendships or romantic) we seem to weed out the bad memories, and forget why that relationship ever really ended. It just goes to show the selective nature of the human mind. How we can so easily forget and how easily we can be nostalgic of something that may even have been incredibly unhealthy and damaging to our lives. I guess it goes to show that humans are trained to be more hopeful than doubtful, at least that's how I see it. Kind of like pandoras box... even though the box was filled with every sorrow imaginable in the world, what was left at the bottom of that box was hope. A single trace of hope that could bury the worlds ill's in a fraction of a second.
Looking back on a relationship, we have that hope. The hope that covers up our memories that were what really ended that relationship in the first place. The hope that allows us to go out and search for something else, something new, and something good. When one door closes, another one is sure to open, and I am definitely a firm believer in that. So should we really dwell on the past relationships we've had and let that consume our present lives to the point that it holds us back from moving forward? Definitely not. Instead I think that these lost friendships and relationships were truly a blessing. As much as you may resent that person from your past, or as much as you may miss the good that they brought you, everything happens for a reason. They came into your life for a reason and left for just as much of a reason. We must use these experiences to grow and learn to love others as we do ourselves. What makes a person weak is when they dwell and don't let go of the past. The past should be used as a roadmap to guide you through the present to a better future. When times seem dark and when loneliness seems to cast a shadow over a persons existence, they must hope that very soon things will change and that they will once again find relationships and build bonds with significant individuals as they once did before.
No comments:
Post a Comment